C3 Therapy
Compassion | Connection | Communication

Lyndsey Osler, LMFT

Relationship support

I work with many different types of couples and relationships

Couples Therapy

 

Couples

You will get the most out of couples therapy with me if you both have a good level of self awareness, have done some individual therapy work and are highly motivated to see results.

Couples

I help couples who are DISCONNECTED and STUCK IN A NEGATIVE CYCLE improve their CONNECTION, TRUST AND INTIMACY.

Couples

Are you incredibly busy and both you and your partner work at demanding jobs? Does communication often break down at home? Do you get stuck in a pattern of fighting and bickering? Does the negative communication cycle feel super disconnecting and hurtful? Does it get in the way of fun and intimacy?

Do you have children? Are you worried that your conflict is rubbing off on them? Is your disconnection from your partner effecting your parenting?

LET’S GET TO WORK


 

Approach and Road Map for Couples Therapy

we’ll go from conflict to compassion to communication to connection


  • You and your partner lead very busy lives both professionally and personally. You need tools for better communication and need them to work quickly. You want more trust and connection and want to achieve that with better communication and less conflict.

    We will use the Gottman Method to help you reach your goals. This includes practical tips and strategies to defuse arguments and how to really listen to each other. We will practice in session and there are tools to use outside of session to increase communication and connection.

  • You and your partner have done some individual work but need sessions to be focused on conflict management and how to optimize connection.

    We will use the Gottman Method to help you reach your goals. This includes practical tips and strategies to defuse arguments and how to really listen to each other. We will practice in session and there are tools to use outside of session to increase communication and connection.

  • You and your partner have done extensive self reflection and individual therapy. Yes, you want help with your conflict cycle, but you also have the time and bandwidth for diving deeper into your emotional connection.

    We will use Emotionally Focused Therapy to help you meet your goals. We will explore attachment wounds and maladaptive attachment strategies that are interfering with connection and causing conflict.


Discernment Counseling

Discernment counseling is a short-term therapeutic process for couples on the brink of divorce where one partner is "leaning out" and the other is "leaning in" to the marriage. It aims to give a couple clarity and confidence in their next steps, whether that's a temporary truce to try couples therapy, a decision to separate or divorce, or maintaining the status quo. The goal is not to solve marital problems but to understand how the relationship reached this point and what each person's contributions were, ultimately helping the couple decide on the future direction of their relationship.

  • Path One: Status Quo

    • Definition: The couple continues in the marriage as it currently is, without significant change.

    • Discernment Counseling View: This path is usually not the long-term solution, but it acknowledges that sometimes people aren’t ready to make a decision or change. It allows space for further reflection, while recognizing that staying the same is, in fact, a decision.

    • Focus: Understanding what it means to keep things as they are — both the comfort and the costs.

  • Path Two: Separation/Divorce

    • Definition: The couple chooses to end the marriage.

    • Discernment Counseling View: This is seen as the path of dissolution — sometimes chosen when one or both partners feel the relationship cannot meet their needs or when trust, safety, or commitment feels irreparably broken.

    • Focus: Helping the couple arrive at this decision with clarity, confidence, and as much compassion as possible, reducing future regret or blame.

  • Path Three: Reconciliation with Intensive Effort

    • Definition: The couple commits to giving the marriage a genuine effort, usually through structured therapy (often 6 months of couples therapy with divorce off the table during that time).

    • Discernment Counseling View: This is the path toward repair. The aim is not a promise of a “saved marriage” but an intentional, sustained attempt at change, guided by therapy and the couple’s mutual investment.

    • Focus: Exploring what needs to shift individually and relationally, and testing whether the marriage can be reshaped into something more viable and fulfilling